There is one question that many new mothers ask themselves after their child is born: How am I going to work now?
Many mothers do not have the ability to stay at home and take care of their child full-time. Whether you work at home, you work elsewhere, or you’ve always wanted to start your own business like a beauty salon, taking care of your child and working simultaneously is a stressful endeavor.
So how can you manage both tasks at the same time? Here are 5 tips to always remember:
It is always a good idea to have a planner or to-do list in any point in your life, not just after you have kids. Physically writing down the things you need to accomplish can give you a sense of purpose and relief when you finally get to check off the items on your list. The Reminders app and calendar on your iPhone gives you the convenient ability to keep your schedule close to you.
2) Let it all out
When you’re stressed, it is unhealthy to hold in all your emotions. Don’t be afraid to let off steam in any way you see fit. Take a run, go to the gym, treat yourself, or just have some good old-fashioned alone time to get rid of all the pent up stress inside of you. You don’t have to be afraid of your own emotions—everyone has those times where they just need to let it all out.
3) Find a community of other working moms
You are never in this alone. There are so many other working moms out there who have clubs and meetups in the community. If you have free time, you should share both your excitement and worries over your children and job to others. This can help relieve stress, and you can get to help others as well!
If you are too busy for an in-person club, there are many communities online as well. You can join many different forums and find the one that best suits you and your needs. The internet has general forums, as well as virtual communities for parents of children with different genders, sexualities, races, disabilities—anything you can think of! You just have to search on the internet.
4) Ask for help
If you have a partner at home, make sure they are sharing the parental duties as well. If you’re both working full-time jobs and share incomes, you should be sharing your child too! Not only will it help relieve stress off of your own workload, but it will also allow your child to forge a loving relationship with both of their parents or caretakers.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help from other family members as well. If you want your child to love your parents, in-laws, or siblings, it is best to get them to spend time with your child. If your family wants a relationship with your child, they should be happy to babysit, or help you care for them!
5) Cherish the time you have with your family
In the little downtime you have between your job and being at home, you should make sure to be present and in the moment. When you are spending time with your kids, spend time with your kids. Stop worrying about emails, phone calls, chores, or your workload and really be there for them.
If you live in the moment, your child will appreciate the undivided attention you give to them. You will also feel less stressed, and able to worry about one thing at a time. It is easy to get wrapped up in all the things that need to be done, but at the end of the day, you’re doing it to give your child a wonderful life—you should always put them first and not your obligations, even if that’s easier said than done.